Infinity House

People are people. Anywhere and Everywhere!

Be it across different continents or countries or cities. It doesn’t matter to which tribe they belong to or where did their roots originate from. Geography, location, beliefs and distance might divide them, but there’s one thing that connects them fiercely. The basic human nature.

At the deepest of our cores, we are one and the same. A mixture of values, virtues and vices is what makes a homosapien, a human being. Some of them less, some more.

But what remains to be the bottom line is, the planet Earth is composed of two primary shades, the good and the bad. Now, the question happens to be what do these two overly used words mean?

Usually, people consider the desirable qualities that help in leading in an easy, normal, common and non-controversial life to be the good and the opposite side of the spectrum, by default, is considered to be the dark or the bad. Now, my question to you all. Is this really the right  way to quote it? So, by this definition that is strictly believed by the society since forever, a person who leads a life with hardships in every step he/she takes is considered to be bad?

Over a period of time, we humans, have evolved in any and every field. Starting from human development to designing machines to bagging successful projects in the fields of arts and sciences, we’ve all grown. But, there has always been this one aspect which hasn’t seen development since the time gravity was discovered. Perspectives and judgements.

Having said that, the globe does have a lot of developed nations which maintain an open mind and accept any kind of person; tall, short, dark, fair, healthy, skinny and most importantly, the good and the bad.

A question out of my sheer curiosity, who exactly segregates the mankind into good and bad? Society? Politicians? Nah. Its simply human’s mindset. We have a very peculiar brain, which of course, acts in favour of one’s self. Thus, leading to judgements. Where did these judgements originate from at the first place? At some point in your life, you would’ve heard someone close to you, be it your family or friends or anyone for that matter of fact, saying “God, look at her clothes. Such a disgrace to the society.”, “Did you hear about our neighbor’s son? He failed in his board examinations!!”, “I’ve seen her giggling with a lot of different guys around the campus. She’s definitely fooling around with them.”. And many more. Let’s be honest. We definitely heard about things like this at least for once in our lives. But look at the irony. When similar things are experienced at our own house, they are very gracefully ignored or blind eyed. Hypocrite much?

At the same time, we, or the ‘society’, as most of us refer, forget the existence of a very simple concept. Every human being has a different perspective. As simple as that. Perspective can be as petty as one person liking to start his/her day with a bed coffee while another wanting to gear up his/her feet and hit the roads. A person wanting to take a shower even before the rooster raises and shines or a person who chooses to start his/her weekend in a lethargic fashion. None the less, there’s another side to this fence. Perspectives on not so petty issues.

Let’s consider one of the examples I’ve mentioned above. How does failing in a subject make a person dumb or bad? To be more precise, a victim of judgements? He/she must be having his/her own personal issues. He might want to pursue a completely opposite career to what he’s following right now. She must be dealing with harsh words that her peers throw towards her. Anything, everything. But, not even a flicker of such thoughts arise in one’s mind while passing a jugdement. How does it matter? It’s just a sentence. How would it change one’s life. That’s where we go wrong. Because, mate, it does matter. Every letter, every word and every freaking sentence.  The words which “don’t matter” to you, have the power to turn one’s life upside down. Insecurities, trust issues, anger, low self-esteem, loneliness and what not, clouds one’s life. A forever scar on his/her innocent soul. Those wings which once wanted to fly free and high like a butterfly, gets a hard blow of reality. And then, boom! The end of the beginning!

This is just one of the many examples that we might have heard or experienced at a personal level.

Converse to how harsh it sounds, this not-so-petty problem can be solved if we look back at the simple fact that there are different colors that emerge out of a same spectrum. Likewise, different people belonging to same society have different perspectives. What’s unacceptably wrong for you, might be one’s passion, ambition. What you consider as a sin, might be a lifestyle choice for someone else. What she wears or what he talks or whom she meets is his/her personal choice. You don’t get to make your comment on it.

When we know that something we are following is sick, we got to work on it as a team and clear the fungus out. The urge of judgement has to be suppressed by the thought of perspective.

Try to be in their shoes before you judge them for what they did. Think of the situation that led them to do what they did. And this mere acknowledgement will make life rainbows and unicorn for many people out there.

Until next time. OK, thanks, bye.

P.S: No offense to anyone out there. Like I said, every person has a different perspective and ideology and I sincerely respect that.