Infinity House

Ever heard of the sentence “I trust you more than my life”? I assume, a good amount of us did. Remember how does it feel? Special, overwhelming? Maybe, both? Or maybe, none!

We humans, are social animals. How much ever one says all he/she needs in life is good food, strong internet, travelling and blah blah blah, at the end, we definitely crave for a social life and a third person’s attention. This is exactly the time where a need for companionship occurs. Be it in the form of a partner or parents or best friend, so on and so forth. Someone who would gladly invest a couple of moments of the day to sit by your side and listen to you, about how eventful your day was or how it started on a bad note where you missed your favorite morning coffee! *sigh* Who doesn’t mind listening to your rant, be it at three in the afternoon or at three in the middle of the night! Who doesn’t judge you for the person you are and adores the soul you store within. A companion who has a super power to get a concave on your face when your mind randomly remembers a memory with him/her. *peaceful smile* Moving further, let’s talk about another aspect of life, very much related to what we spoke all this while.

As we grow, we realize a few things. Some accept it and some get terrified. Some take it, considering it to be a practical aspect of life and some, try to run away from it. Sudden realizations and revelations thrown by life, remind us of the imaginary demons under our bed. As a kid, I felt protected, secured from all those creepy things that peep at us from underneath the bed, behind the closet, by just shutting my eyes and holding Mr. Mean Freak(one of my favorite soft toys:) ) close to my heart, by trusting that he would protect me from all the monsters that emerge as the dusk arrives. A mere five lettered word, ‘Trust’, on a lifeless soft toy, use to slip me into peaceful slumber and welcome those shiny rainbow-unicorn kinda dreams.

Now, imagine, trusting a palm sized toy made me smile ear-to-ear, how would it change one’s life for trusting a living, moving, talking human? Well, it indeed will be a life changing experience for many. Not sure in which direction, though.

A relationship, be it with anything or anybody, solely lies on a pillar called Trust. I believe George Mc’Donald said it best when he stated “To be trusted is a greater compliment that to be loved.”. This sentence has such a beautiful meaning hidden inside it. To gain someone’s trust, is so far, the most difficult task I’ve heard about. Trusting someone doesn’t happen in a blink of an eye. It takes time. Building trust is like nurturing a plant. Time taking, lots of patience involved, sometimes gets messed up, but one doesn’t let it slip out of one’s hold, because, the end, is worth it. But what I believe is, the journey is mesmerizing in its own way. Like I mentioned earlier, about how trust is a key factor for any relation, the process of building trust on one another is what evolves your relationship. You get to know the opposite person a bit more than you already do. You discover yourself through them, sometimes. And as you reach the climax, oh, boy! You can’t stop grinning because you finally found that one person, that companion who brightens up your sulking mood. Magical, isn’t it?

On the contrary, did anyone of you think about the other side of the coin? what does it have in store for us? Disappointment, depression, anxiety? Sounds ironic to all that we discussed so far? Well, my friend, that’s life. There’s always a dark night, following a bright day. A down-hill underneath an up-hill. The other side of the coin doesn’t have to be witnessed by all of us, but most of us might have a taste of it as an outcome of the destiny’s gamble.

When you invest a lot of yourself in nurturing your relationship with anyone, you tend to start expecting, if not the same amount, but maybe a-drop-in-an-ocean equivalent of the effort you’ve put. And unfortunately, the opposite person might not realize it. That poor soul must be in this idealist bubble, filled with happiness that you have successfully created all by yourself. Keyword: Yourself. Slowly, the string that the two of you were supposed to hold together, will come into your hands without even snapping your fingers. Trust that you had, turns into doubt. Double thoughts, overthinking, priority issues, ego, what not! Expectations vs reality gives one a hard blow. The mesmerizing path of weaving trust for one, becomes miserably suffocating for the other. And this leads to the worst, thread found broken even before it was made!

That being said, even the darkest night has stars that twinkle to their brightest and the moon that shines to enchant us. And after every down-hill, one has to climb the up-hill. Hence, it’s never to late to stick back the broken thread. It’s never to late to speak out your opinions, your emotions and your expectation. It’s never to late to stop and hold on to the person who can get you a tub of ice cream even on a windy night to see that beautiful smile on your face. And mind me telling you, the person doesn’t always have to be your life partner. It can be your 2A.M friend, your partner in crime, your soul sister or your #BFF(the last one, definitely, in my case, LoL).

So, all I would say is, never give up on people who mean a lot to you, who’s important to you and who’s presence lightens up your day. Don’t let a couple of unspoken words or overly spoken words snatch away that person from your life. Trust is definitely hard to attain and it is not less to a hurricane task to stitch back a broken trust. But, it’s bewitching when it’s remade, with double the emotions laced in it. You don’t have to climb the Himalayas or count the number of droplets in the Pacific ocean. All you have to do, is make the person realize how you feel a void in your heart when they are absent in your life.

That’s about it then! Until next time. OK, thanks, bye!